'Powerful women intimidate men'

Okay, just two words: this one is totally wrong. There is indeed a problem when it comes to powerful women, but their power is not at the core of what’s disturbing men. Women of power (especially when it comes to their professional position) tend to behave in the same way at home as when they are in the workplace, where they may try to establish boundaries with regards to their male counterparts. This is one of the biggest mistakes one can make when trying to create intimacy. Men also admire independent women who can handle big responsibilities -  It can really be attractive. It shows that you’re smart, capable, and that you’re able to deal with important issues. Moreover, it shows that you’re reliable.

 BUT, and this is a very very big BUT, men don’t like feeling like they are useless, that they can’t truly play their male role with you. They need you to need them and their protection. That’s just the way it is. To struggle against this tendency and unconscious belief is to fight a losing battle. Just make the men you’re interested in understand that they’ll have a real part in your life because, like everyone else, you have weaknesses, too.  However, don’t expect them to do the same. They’d consider that to be a lack of masculinity.

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Say 'no' to over-control

Another very important point to remember is the following: don’t try to over-control your presentation with someone you want to get to know better.  At work, there are rules that don’t allow you to be completely yourself. Codes of conduct are meant to be respected in that context. However, when you’re in the company of a man outside of the workplace, don’t try to control every gesture in order to please the person in front of you. it doesn’t work that way. This kind of behavior snuffs out attraction. When you’re at work, you’re at work, and nowhere else. When you’re in a context where you want to charm, your there, and nowhere else.

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'Women in positions of power scare men'

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'As a man, I want to feel useful'

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